Bonus Mom

I was so excited yesterday when I received a call, not just any call, but one from Phoneix AZ. Now, I know  a lot of people in many different states, but I have to admit, I did not know anyone from Phoneix!

I was so suprised when THE Bonus Mom Tammy Butcher was on the other end! We had a great conversation, and I am thrilled to share her book with you as well as the trailer link below. If you are in a step family or know of one with small children, I highly recommend her book! Bonus Mom

As Bonus Mom’s we all struggle to be the best mom we can to a child that is not biologcally ours. Because second marriages begin at different stages of life, bonus families begin at many different ages for children. For smaller children it is hard to figure out what they should call you, how they can love you and their own mom too without betraying their own mom. Older children tend to hang back and watch. To “wait and see” how things are going to work out. Forming a relationship is more based on trust with these older children. You have to figure out how to get into their world, without over stepping your boundries.

There are many great ideas for bonding with your new bonus family. Date nights with your children, each parent taking a child out to dinner, one at a time. Sleep overs for their friends, and even things as simple as a regular set night to play games. Kids are big on routine and once you start game nights, they will not let you forget!  Saturday night game night and Snacks are always a hit at the Wittmuss Haus!

As a new Bonus family it is important to start your own routines and traditions. The most important thing is to be consistant. You are making new memories, ones for your own special family. It will be very different but these can be great new adventures for you and your children.

What do you do if you have a child that does not want to be a part of the “adventure” ? The best advice that I can give to other Bonus Families is to stick with your routine, include all the children, and Pray! Children are so different, and it is hard for some to accept the “new order” in the home. Especially the teenagers in the family. But dont give up! There will be those moments, you will recognize them, the moments where all is well with the world and you really connect with your teenager. Take the time to recognize these moment and cherish them!

It just takes alot of work, more patience, and above all things alot of time in prayer for your new family. But the hugs are so rewarding!

For more info on the Bonus Mom book, you can watch the trailer below!

Have  wonderful day and Be Blessed!

Executive Mom